Relationship 101

I apologize for the lack of posts lately. Honestly, I have been busy catching up with my friends and my classes have just started so I kinda abandoned my blog for a little while.

Before I write anything about being in a relationship, I just want to tell you guys that I am not an expert in this field, I am also not a couple therapist. My content is based on personal experiences and my personal opinions.

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Just the thought of being with somebody who adores, loves, and exhilarates you is very soothing, right? Imagine how that person would die to protect you, how you would be missed and thought of by someone every second of every day, and how he'd do anything to be with you. A long time ago, I never thought that a person would care about me and love me for who I am. I mean, Me? Is that a joke? I don't even want to date myself! But as we all know, everyone has different taste and point of views. There is always someone who hates you and someone who loves you. We should focus on the ones who love, care, and respect us no matter how hard the situation gets. I have been in a relationship three times. I have been in love twice and got my heart broken once. Every and each of this relationship has taught me how to handle countless situations.

• When it comes to arguing, I hate to lose. I do not care if I am right or wrong, I always want to win. You see how I am such a bad bad bad girlfriend? I love to spin around the situation and twist every word so that I can hear a word "sorry" come out of my boyfriend's mouth even though he is not wrong. That is so bad! As a human being, we make mistakes, we slip, we forget things, and that is completely normal. What is so hard about saying a single sorry and move on with our lives? I know it's easier to say and harder to do, but would you rather lose someone who loves you than admitting your own wrongdoing? I, myself is still working on this because I know I can't and won't let myself ruin a relationship that I have been dreaming of.

• Have a honest relationship. Do not lie to each other because relationship is a way to get to know your significant other even deeper. If the beginning already starts with a lie, you have to cover your lie with another lie. It's tiring.

• Throw the third party out as far as possible! There is always a third person, the friend, the family, the negative influence, the mistress, etc.
• Cheating is very much UNacceptable in my dictionary. I don't care what the excuse is, but cheating is out of the question. 
• Negative comments from your friends?  Dude, there are only TWO people in a relationship and you should know better about your significant other than any of your friends. Tell them to Get Off because it's none of their business. 
• Fix everything together as a team, figure it all out, find a way to get out of your problems together! The outsiders are just the audience. The ones who really care will let you TWO handle it as mature as possible.

• You have a life outside of this cute, lovely, little bubble that is called a relationship. You have work to do, deadlines to catch, a family to take care of, appointment to go to. Be understanding to one another and remember the reality.

• Compromise is a very crucial thing to do to be in a relationship. Before you go deeper, you have to compromise with your significant other on the things that you both might think is very important before you begin your journey together as a couple. For example, is this relationship is going to disturb your study, work, or personal life? How do you guys compromise to fix these problems?

•  Respect one another. This is another one that I personally need to work on too. Respects include consideration, appreciation, and good manners. Show them that you care about them and consider them as someone who is very influential in your life. Say sorry, thank you, and please. No matter how close you guys are, the little things are the ones that matter most! Accept others opinions with an open heart.

•  Do not take things for granted! The efforts that he puts in the relationship has to be balanced with the efforts that you put in. Treat your significant other like you want to be treated. 

• Expectations lead to disappointment (Lesson Learned). Just live for the moment and let everything flow as it is.

•  Please please please, when you face an argument, solve it with a cold mind. Screaming, cursing, shouting won't do you any good. These things will only create more problems and show that you disrespect them. P.S. It hurts to be screamed and cursed at, you know? I experienced it and trust me, words cut your heart deeper that a slap in your face. 

•  A little spark won't hurt you know? A little "I LOVE YOU" post-it-note letter as a reminder that you think of them! 

 A couple of weeks ago, Karishma from Gingersnaps asked me if I want to do a guest post on her blog, and I said yes when she offered. I decided to write about "My Blogging Story" on her blog. If you guys want to check it out, please give us some feedbacks :)

I hope you find this helpful. Thank you for reading.

LOVE,